I started off in June, have lost 20 lbs, am happy for myself, and have been stuck at the 181-183 mark for weeks now...it's like I'm afraid to leave the 180's because after that, I might actually be successful and hit my goal of 150 one day...is that weird or what? It's like I'm afraid of succeeding because I'll gain it back one day and feel like a failure again...what is that? I have a mental hurdle...need some advice on getting past this one...

I got stuck for 4 months (pre JC) gaining and losing the same darn 3 lbs. stuck in 180's, and it was frustrating and I thought I was sabotaging. I had been on ww for 8 months, and so that is when I decided to join JC to shake things up have more control and accountabilityand it has worked for me.

so the only advice I can give you is trust the process be diligent to sticking with plan.

the other changes I did that helped me move the scale from plateau was:

1. Eating breakfast within 1 hour of waking up
2. get 8-10 waters in a day
3. always wear my heart rate monitor during exercise and try to hit certain calorie burn
4. changed up my activity Incline or interval work is really awesome to increase metabolism
5. Instead of lifting weights doing 3 sets of one exercise, I started circuit training which also increases metabolism.

I'ts a total mentality thing so you have to figure it out for yourself and move beyond where your at, if you like to read Bob Harper from biggest loser has a book called Are you Ready and talks about trusting the process.

I feel the exact same way as you Louise! This is the weight in my diets that I always fail at, and I feel like I have been sabotaging myself. Someone elsewhere mentioned Geneen Roth's articles on this topic - so you might check them out because they are very good

I've been a Jenny Craig member for 5+ years and recently realized I'm struggling with a fear of failure. My quest for perfection leads to all-or-nothing behavior and the yo-yo weight loss pattern follows. I lost 45 lbs. the first year and gained it back over the next few years; recently lost 34 lbs and to date gained back 20 of it.

Fortunately I haven't given up, thanks to an excellent, positive, patient! consultant at Jenny Craig. Yesterday I said Enough! Last night with Cindy, I developed a 3-step plan for this week, starting with research on how to overcome the fear of failure. During my consultation Cindy checked online and voila', a post on the fear of succeeding. Thank you!! This post completes step 2, respond to this forum entry.

Below are a few websites with decent information on the fear of failure. Fear of success is also mentioned, although if these articles don't help, you may want to do a separate search on overcoming fear of success.

• Success on the Far Side of Failure—Learning from Failures
  http://www.stephencovey.com/blog/?cat=1
• The Courage to Live Consciously (long but very good)
  http://www.earthlingcommunication.com/a/co...s-awareness.php
• Overcoming the Fear of Failure
  http://www.goal-setting-guide.com/overcomi...of-failure.html
• Fear of Failure
  http://www.eruptingmind.com/meaning-fear-of-failure/

Enjoy,

Beth

Thank you Beth for those links. Very helpful!!! I am really going to look at them carefully. I have been wondering why I'm grinding my teeth soooooooooooo much lately, I realized I am so terrified of failing. I have been on soooooo many diets and lifestyle changes and nothing has worked. JC has been so easy for me so far. In 7 or so weeks I am down 17 lbs. Which is so great, but I am getting closer to a weight that I usually start to unravel. I am so determined to get to my goal. And it scares me at the same time. I almost can't visualize it, I've not been there in 25 yrs.??? I am using the Touchstones dvd and cd which is helping my mental state. And am JATTNE (Jenny All the Time No Excuses) which is alot easier than expected. So I am learning alot about me with Jenny, where in the past it was just a diet. So Thanks for the links!!
Michele

It's a scary thought for all of us..what if we fail? Or gain it all back?

But...what if we don't? That thought is what has kept me going. I'm trying hard to focus on those things I can do now that I could never do before...jogging, hiking, biking, etc etc

You are not alone in the fear but you can keep going!