I have been on the program for 2 months now. My goal was for a wedding I was in 2 weeks ago. Since the wedding I have lost motivation to stay on the program. I eat the food plus more. Last week I had a 3 lb gain and I weigh in tomorrow. I do not want to weigh in tomorrow, I know I have another gain similar to last week. I have had so much trouble following the plan again this week. I did not even care to watch what I ate. I assume people out there struggle with the same thing. 2 weeks in a row is rough and I want to get back up again. I just don't know how get my motivation going like in the beginning.

Its usually not a great idea to loose weight for any particular event, because as you've noticed once the event is over so is the motivation!

So now to find some new reason or motivation to keep loosing weight and reach your goals. Do you have any? Think about those. What things do you have coming up that you want to be looking and feeling great for? Or best of all, why not look and feel your best FOR YOU! You are worth it, you know! Or if you dont feel that is enough, why not loose the weight and maintain it so that there wont be any future reasons that you "have to loose the weight for by X date". You'll be ahead of the game when everyone else is struggling to get as skinny as they were in high school before the next reunion, and have no reason to make lame New Years resolutions that are forgotten as soon as the New Years Day hangover is gone.

Or you could get into shape to prevent premature aging. I got high blood pressure when I was only 34 years old, but taking good care of myself has taken care of that problem and I no longer need meds. A healthy lifestyle will help prevent many diseases such as diabetes, heart disease, some cancers, etc. And better to loose the weight and learn to keep it off while you are young and have resilient skin, because the constant yo-yoing is very likely to cause lots of wrinkles down the road.

Take care,
Angela

Yes we all have had our moments, I for instance had a bad one this summer, for a whole month that's all that I did, eat eat eat and as a result I gained back 8lbs that I had gotten rid of earlier. Now I have to get rid of it again ! But it happened and all I can do is just admit it, deal with it, and move on because if I don't move on I will gain all the rest back too and that is not an option for me.

My motivation is for me a few things: clothes that I haven't fit into since junior high school, yep been overweight most of my life and I hate it, being healthy would be a lovely attribute to have, watching my first grandbaby be born and then grow up would be wonderful ! Watching my own children get married some day, and the list goes on.

My problem lies in my own mind. I sometimes have to just fight myself and keep telling myself why I'm doing this and why it's worth it, even when I feel like giving up. I am doing this for me mainly because I am worth it. But only I can do this no one else can do it for me. Coming here to these forums and reading everyones thoughts and goals also helps me to stick closely with my own journey. The chat room also is a big help to me. People there are very supportive as well.

So just remember how excited you were when you first started the program, your journey, and remember how good it felt, really concentrate on that and come in here and read the forums and go into chat and make some buddies here, it's worth it and it really helps. But you have to discipline yourself to do it and to stay on track. If you mess up on one meal get back on with the next meal. Don't tell yourself that your day is shot anyway because of one mess up. It's not worth it.

You're worth more and you deserve more ! Take care.

Don't know how old you are but here's the low down just on me...my family. Five girls, we're all 200 +, three with diabetes or borderline.

Three of us are actively trying to take charge of our lives; two just sit and keep getting bigger and bigger (the two eldest, they are both in their 70s).

I see the horrible shrinking in of the eldest worlds...they no longer care to walk on the beach when we go to the coast; they can't climb stairs to beach condo on the second floor. They have no stamina for fun and complain constantly about EVERYTHING. They are unhappy with themselves (although not willing to admit it out loud) and pretty much everybody else.

I was a dancer, actress stayed in great shape a long time but when I had a baby at 33, the weight ballooned up, and kept going up from 125 to 175 to topping out at 225 last winter. No reason to care, and although I would try now and again to do some exercise or watch what I ate, for the most part these were short bursts of time and energy and soon forgotten.

Then in April my old high school boyfriend and I reconnected. We were soon an item again and he said the sweetest thing to me: I can sense you are uncomfortable about yourself. Don't worry.

Well, somehow that had the opposite effect on me, and I decided it was time to take charge. I don't want to be a bitter crabby old lady sitting in a chair watching tv and eating all day like my two eldest sisters. So even though the initial momentum came from my old flame, I decided right there and then, that even if this thing doesn't work out with him I am going to get healthy for ME.

I began slowly with walks, then joined JC, and it's been small increments, 1-2 lbs a week mostly, but since June I've dropped from size 22W to 16, lost 20 lbs and 18.5 inches. And I feel GREAT!!!!

The most important things for me in the early stages were
- get the unwanted food out of the house, have the right food around so when I do feel the need to eat, I have the right choices.
- talk to myself about how important it was for my future to stay on plan, or after a meal on my own that was off plan, to get right back to the plan that day
- drink lots of water
- when I got discouraged, look at the photos of myself then and now - I keep them on the fridge, and at my office too (I hate it but it's reality and it keeps me focused)

Even after just a few weeks, photos of me show a marked change, and I'm loving it.

Well I guess I just wanted to tell my story. But there it is-- I'm middle aged goofy lady with cats, a workaholic, and lazy by nature and I hate people telling me what to do, but I listen to my JC consultant and when she tells me to try something, I try it. This is working for me, and I think it can for anyone if you want it to work.

I decided to become TEACHABLE.

And just in case you were wondering, yes- things are working out with the old high school boyfriend! But my commitment about my health is to ME, not him.

I think this board has some of the most incredible people posting, and I read it religiously even when I don't post. Thanks to all for your sharing.

Jane

SW 219.4
CW 200.6
GW 150

Just my 2 cents so no offense intended.

The reason you are having trouble is that you set your goal and you made it. Just get to the wedding. Well you did. Mentally you are now without a goal.

As emerald said, try to set longer term goals instead ov event driven goals. Better health is one. Looking good all the time might be another. That will come from what's important to you.

Hope that helps.