Hi Everyone- I'm stuck and have tears rolling down my cheeks as I sit here now typing this. I feel to far gone, have gained the past 3 weeks. When I cheat I feel sick and miserable. I hate my clothes, I want to be happy again and to have a life again. My heart is broken, because i feel broken. I love meeting new friends and would be so happy to make friends on here and to help be a good sounding board too.

Does anyone have any advice for help on picking oneself up and restarting? I'm close to totally giving up and its not good, since I'm so sad now.

I wish everyone lots of luck

What will giving up do for you? You don't say anywhere how much you need to lose or how much you have lost so far, just that you have gained the past 3 weeks. Well, obviously, something is wrong. What are you eating that's not on program? If you're not eating anything you're not supposed to, then check your meds. Could any of them be causing weight gain? What calorie level are you on? Is it too low, causing your body to hold onto every pound? You sound like you might be depressed. Have you seen a doctor yet? It's hard enough to lose weight, but whatever is causing you to gain is turning it into an uphill battle. I definately think you should spend some time surfing the boards here, especially new members & general, because there's lots of support to be found here. You can also offer support to others & pick up ideas about losing weight/exercize, etc. This will probably help a lot with the feelings of loneliness you've expressed. Also, are you getting outside at least a little each day? I know sometimes the skinnies can be cruel, but if they are holding you back from doing everything you can, then get over it! Everyone here is suffering from their excess weight, no matter how much or how litle they have to lose. No matter what you decide to do, please do talk to your doctor. If, as I suspect, you are suffering from depression, there are some antidepressants that don't (repeat: DO NOT) cause weight gain. Best wishes to you & see your doctor SOON!..... Did I mention how important it is to see your doctor ASAP??? Sending a great, big virtual hug your way!

Hey!! I'm so sorry you are having a rough time. When you say you've gained the last three weeks..are we talking 2-3 lbs a week or like 2 or 3 ounces?

Okay..so now take a deep breath and close your eyes. Now think back to the very first day you walked into or called JC. What was your motivation? What made THAT day the day to join JC? How did you feel when you left JC that day? How do you feel the meals and days you are 100% on plan?
okay...now think about the way you feel when you cheat or have a rough meal or day. What happened that meal or day. Are you eating because you are ACTUALLLY hungry or depressed or bored or what?
Okay...so now open your eyes. How do you feel?
The first step is to figure out WHY you go off plan and cheat. Every time you feel like giving up remember how you felt that first day.
You can do this! and deep down you know you can!
Please message me ANYTIME! I'm on here what seems like every sec. of everyday
Please remember you are not alone in this. We all have moments, days, and/or weeks like what you are describing. you can overcome!!!

Beth

You are not alone. Loosing weight is one of the hardest things we will do in our lives! It takes a long time, a tremendous amount of stick-to-it-iveness, quite a bit of deprivation, and a lot of sweat. Its super hard to keep up the motivation day after day, week after week, month after month, etc. And for what? So that when we reach our goals we can continue to sweat a bunch and continue to eat healthy or risk gaining it all back?

Hardly seems worth it when put like that, right?

What about if you did it for your health? Adding decades to your life, and having those extra years actually be filled with REAL living! Not being miserable because we dont have the energy to go out and do the things we want, not being embaressed to be seen in public unless we are covered up completely in "slimming" black clothes (who are we really kidding, nobody is fooled into thinking we are thin), not being sick from preventable diseases caused by obesity, etc. I hated having to remember taking my blood pressure meds every day. Who knows what I might have needed next... Cholestrol lowering drugs? Insulin? Chemotherapy? Hopefully I wont have to worry about those things now that I take better care of myself. I haven't needed my blood pressure meds since October, YAY!

Things have gotten very hard for me since I reached halfway a few weeks ago. I haven't lost any weight since then... and I have a lot of events coming up in the next month so I probably wont see any major losses during this time. But I will do what I can when I can. I cant give up now! I've come so far, and my life is so much better than it was. I dont ever want to go back the way I was. I dont ever want to shop in the plus size departments again. I dont ever want to ask for an airplane seatbelt extension again. I want the airplane tray to sit FLAT when I use it, and not dig into my belly or rest on it at an angle. I want to go to amusement parks and not worry if I will fit on the rides. I dont ever want to be uncomfortable again in any chair with arms that dig into my hips.

As much as I would love to just say, "Hey, I've done so well and now its getting hard so I'm going to quit", I'm not going to. I still have things I want to accomplish. I want my belly to stop slapping my legs when I jog, and stop resting on my lap or the toilet seat when sitting. I want to stop being ashamed of how my upper arms look, and not feel as if I can only wear tops with sleeves. I want to get to a weight were I wont have knee problems like several of my overweight relatives.

There is so many things I've wanted to do in my life, but I wasn't doing a lot of them because of my weight. I dont want my weight to hold me back ANYMORE! If any of these things I've said rings a bell with you, then you have PLENTY of reasons to keep going. I know you can do it. If I can do this, pretty much anyone can.

Take care,
Angela

There isn't much more I can add to what the previous posters have said.

We are all human, and we all deal with the emotional side of ourselves. The doubter that always tells us we are not good enough, that we are not trying hard enough, or going fast enough, or that we will fail, that what we are going through no one else ever has so you are all alone. All alone.

Well you know what? Tell that little voice to shut up. You are good enough and your efforts ARE worth it, and you are not alone, because every human being alive today and those that have fallen before us, have gone through similar emotional roller coaster rides.

What is your plan today? Are you going to pick yourself up, dust your self and your menu off and give it 100%?

There is a book I highly recommend you read. When I read it cover to cover I had my AH! moment. It is by M.J.Ryan and it is called, "This year I will...: How to finally change a habit, keep a resolution or Make a dream come true." You can pick it up on Amazon for about 10 bucks. In that book I ran across the S.M.A.R.T. goal. Best thing that ever happened to me and it is the best advise I can give to those overwhelmed by their own expectations and goals.

I wish you much success and blessings. And the quote below? It is out of M.J.Ryan's book and reminds me that the road to success is not always easy. Sometimes it is hard work with a lot of sweat involved.

All of the previous posters have had some wonderful things to say and all of them are people that I follow very closely for my own personal inspiration while on this journey.

A couple of things that I look at when I have a 'weak' moment/day. I look at what my motivation for getting healthy (I never say skinny because that comes along with being healthy) is. My motivation is my son. Always my son. I think of how active he is now and how that will only grow as he becomes older (he is just about 2). I want to be able to run around with him and not stop to catch my breath after only a few minutes. Having my son as my motivation is great because he is always there (either in person or in the forefront of my mind). He is a constant reminder of where I want to be.

Now, what is your motivation? What drove you to want to get healthier and make that hard step (the hardest of this journey) to walk through the doors of Jenny Craig? When you can answer those questions, it should once again become clear where you want to be.

I also think that having constant support (whether it be in-person, internet forums, visual, etc) is really important. I have, on my wall at work and at home, a piece of paper that has a graph of my weight loss on it. Each week, I fill in the new amount and can see how much closer I am to my goal. I also have sticky's on it that show my current week's weight-loss and my overall loss. People actually comment on it and that makes me feel great!

You have to do this for you... you have to want to do this... this is YOUR journey!

I have been where you are and would love to be your 'friend' through this journey. There are a number of great groups that would love to have you... if you would like to know which groups I regularly post, just message me!

You can do this and YOU are worth it!

Hope to see you around!

Lindsay

You guys who have posted above are just awesome! Thanks so much for taking the time to post on this thread. I personally am going to print this page and post it somewhere close by, so that anytime I get discouraged, one of you will be there to pick me back up! TryingtobeHappy, I hope you hang in there ... don't give up now ... you're worth your absolute best effort. Thanks again, everyone!

I am going through the doldrums at the moment too. I have managed to get 25 pounds off, and was so motivated. Now, it seems like I'm stuck in the zone of .. well I don't quite know what the zone is, but I'm not so happy with it. Your note, luckysgal10, has just been printed and has been put where I can read it every day. You have a gift, and I just wanted to say thank you.

I really will do this!

Well thank you! I enjoy trying to help as much as I can on here if at all possible. These are things I've tried that seem to work for me and it helps me stay on plan and motivated to keep going on JC on days when I feel like giving up.

Hope you are having a great weekend!
Beth