hi my name is lizz and im a 16 year old girl. i live on long island, NY and i have many friends but none of my friends are.... overweight. and its not like im obese im really pretty but im heavy and i just went junior prom shopping n i looked at all those dresses n went i wont fit in any of them.... i did find one that makes me look great but it took 4 hours. i just need someone who understands me. my friends do that thing when they say 'ahh u look great' or 'u dont need to lose weight' but when we go shopping i feel weird cuz there a 5 and im... well not a 5. n my mom has pressured me since ive been 12 i just sucks!!!! if anyone want to talk or vent like i just did or needs a buddy and friend please reply cuz we all need to stick together n talk. ~lizz

Hi Lizz,
Your post really hit home with me. Although I am not 16 anymore, I still remember being in your shoes and it's a heart breaking memory. Have you joined the JC program? It really works, and I promise you it will change your whole outlook on life!!!
Unless other people acutally battle with their weight, they don't understand the feelings that go along with it. I'm sure your friends mean well, they love you for who you are. It's not easy explaining to others how you feel about yourself, but you have come to the right place.

You have just taken the first step by reaching out to the people on this board. I hope you find the support you are looking for. We are all here for you!!! And congrats on finding a prom dress!!!!

thank you sooooo much that helps knowing people are out there. Yes i have joined JC ive been on it for 3 months but ive had alot of set backs ive been on two retreats where i gained back my weight and i went on a cruise n i didnt do bad but didnt do good n its just sooo hard i dont know what to do cuz im so stressed at school n that kills my eating pattens n i dont have a microwave at school so i cant bring JC food for lunch n it just tires me out thing about it n then i lose sleep over it. i feel like its killing me! maybe im over dramatizing it.

Lizz,

Don't be so hard on yourself. Take a deep breath and give yourself a pat on the back for making it this far. It's tough to make this work with your kind of schedule but it's NOT impossible! You need to relax a little and do some planning. It may take a little time at first, but once you get the hang of it you will be on your way! When you start stressing over it, you are setting yourself up to fail.

Do you go to a center or are your a Direct member? There are consultants available to you either way. Talk to them, tell them your situation at school, and they can help you plan meals that don't need to be nuked. Read through the different topics on this board also, because there are a lot of great ideas that come from other busy people.

Try to think positive about what you are doing. Remember that there are others going through the same thing and you are not being over dramatic. We all feel the stresses of life and we all face roadblocks on our weightloss journey. Keep your chin up, and work at your own pace. You can do this and you can be successful at it!!!

[quote name='LisaKay' date='Mar 20 2009, 06:35 PM' post='464996']

hey,
i just joined JC and wanted to know how it has been for u? im on my third week and have lost only 6.1 pounds
im writing here because, i think what u guys wrote is. def alot like me, im glad to know im no the only person out there dealing with this, i think i would help me to let everything out. im 17 yrs old. and i know what u guys feel like.. my weight loss has been .7 then 5.4 then .9 waiting for the next weigh in but im not sure how its gonna go..i dont think is gonna be good..i went to D.C. and ate some itsy bitsy stuff i mean like not alot but, im afraid it wont look good..what should i do?

Lizz & SW,

Just thought i would check in and see how you 2 are doing? Somewhat, glad you have joined us!!! Your may feel like your weight loss has been slow, but hey, you are LOSING!!!! Be grateful!!!!

Each baby step is a step in the right direction....the bikini, the right dress, the right jeans....whatever is right for you!!!!

So tell me how you guys are doing.....

Lisa Kay

in regards to the lack of a microwave at school, i microwave my lunches at home and then wrap them in foil and put them in a lunch box and eat it at school. they are not as hot as they would be right out of the microwave but they are not cold either.

Hey guys! so i need a friend as well. i am 19 years old and 253 lbs. this is my 1st week on JC and im freaking out. it just seems like alot of food im eatting and i feel like im gaining weight with all the food. and some days i can get it all in. i read some posts that said if u dont eat everything then you will gain weight and i really want to start loosing it!! i have alot of people cheering me on and i dont want to let them down and embarass myself either. i dont know what to do. i have also started to work out for 20 min a day. what are some tips that i should follow? please help!

I can do it, I am in the same boat as you though, 18, 252 lbs, and i lost 6 lbs my first four days, but now i feel like i'm stuck there . I know that i'm not, and that if i stress myself out ill keep on the weight, but i agree it does seem like your eating alot. Drink water, as much as you want. Remeber that Jenny craig is making the food and the menus the way they do for a reason, if people were gaining weight it would be defeating the purpose of the whole diet thing. Its better for you that you eat the food, I'm not going to lie some days i accidentally skip salads and stuff. Maybe you can try taking multivitamins instead of anytime bars if your eating those, and talk to your consultant about what you can do for not being able to eat all your food. I'm sure there is a way they can work it out so taht the plan fits you. Don't give up there is alot of love on these forums. Remember the goal you are trying to get to. Personally its just being happy and feeling pretty when i look in the mirror. Whatever your goal is, you will get there if you stick to a plan that works for you. If this works for you then stick with it and remember that you have taken the first step to where you want yourself to be for the rest of your life. Everyone around you will be there to support you. Don't forget that you are on the right track and even if its slow, your getting there and before you know it your going to be confused at why you were even worried. Don't give up.

Aw,hey I know exactly how you are feeling..At 8 I weighed about 118lbs,9 I weighed 140lbs,at 13,I weighed almost 180lbs.I've struggled with an eating disorder since.Iwas stuck between 150 and 160 for a few years afterwards,until I just reached a point where I got so depressed that I completely stopped eating and lost around 30lbs.I kept that off,went through a few tough months,and then got to a point where I felt I had to just quit cold turkey.I lost another almost 30lbs in 6-7 months,although I did it in a healthy way and without even trying,but I relapsed shortly after..And yes,for people with bulimia(because of the bingeing,and because for me personally I would try and fight not to compensate)we tend to sometimes gain weight.I've gained 40lbs.
I felt like I was finally "normal" when I'd reached the weight I was at,after feeling like the fat girl all of my previous teenage years.And yes,I remember the size 5 girls..always made me feel like crap about myself!
You'll make it though.Don't let them make you feel badly about yourself.We're all different.
I am always here for support though,so if you ever need an ear..

Hey Lizz, I know exactly how you feel.. I really don't consider myself to be super overweight and I consider myself to be attractive.. but I definetly get insecure sometimes when it comes for bathing suit shopping or any type of shopping! It really sucks to have to go the extra mile to find cute clothes and it gets SO frustrating sometimes its like uh! I want to be able to shop for and wear cute clothes without going into a store and worrying if they're gonna have my size or when they do have my size if it's going to look good on me. It's always hard to because none of my friends are pretty skinny and don't need to be on a diet and don't really understand.. like alot of the times we'll go out to eat and they'll order something really good but pretty fatty and its hard to be like "yeah ill just have a salad.." i'm sure you know what I mean... Anyways, It's kinda funny cause my name is Lizz and I'm 16 :] But I live in southern California.. It'd be cool to talk more, it seems like you could relate alot to me :]

-Lizz
elizabethjeann@yahoo.com

I relate to what almost everyone has said here. I'm 17, a senior in highschool. Like Lizz I don't consider myself huge but I don't feel secure about myself either. It's my frist week and nobody but my family really understands. My family is being so suppourtive but my friends just don't get it. Once I told them I was doing this they all chimed in with "ohh you don't need to do that!" "your not fat!" it's just embarassing. Most of my friends eat anything they want yet they still don't seem to put on weight. It's bad but I'm really jealous of them. It'd also be awesome to talk to somone who understands what I'm going through. (:

Hi my name is Jordan, and it sounds likeI started the same time you did, new years resolution?=] I'm 17 and a senior in highschool too. And though I'm not obese, I am quite overweight and I've always been self conscious about my weight and have tried everything from the Special K "diet" to Weight Watchers and nothing has worked. My schedule just adds to the issue because I am taking all advanced or AP classes at school and I have an apprenticeship after school that lasts until 5:30 or even as late as 10:30 or 11 and I'm taking two college classes at night twice a week on top of that, so my stress level is pretty high. I'm lucky enough to have friends who are supporting me and cheering me on, but I don't think they fully understand. I haven't been losing much the past two weeks but it's very encouraging to see that other people my age are having the same problems as I am.

Ohmygoodnessss! that's a lot of stress. I'm just trying to get through my last year of highschool =/ I can relate with the friend thing. My friends really aren't being suppourtive at all. I think they think it's a joke, and they aren't very suppourtive at all. My only suppourters right now are my family. It's tough at school with lunch because it's never hot. It's really hard doing this in highschool. You should continue doing the program! It's changing my life! I've learned so much and I've lost 7.2 pounds so far! Even though I'm losing only a pound a week, at least I'm losing and not gaining or maintaining! Stick with it! (: